Had a little discussion with Mark yesterday, and I came to realize something…
We as children, from the time we could think, are so influenced, so ingrained in us by the behavior of our parents, that we have expectations of our partner. Both in terms of behavior to our partner, and also what is perceived as the ‘right’ thing in the partnership. That in itself is already a potentially contentious issue.
We as children, from the time we could think, are so influenced, so ingrained in us by the behavior of our parents, that we have expectations of our partner. Both in terms of behavior to our partner, and also what is perceived as the ‘right’ thing in the partnership. That in itself is already a potentially contentious issue.
The very fact that it is so ingrained in us, causes another issue. We often don’t share them outright with our partners. Most of the time – we don’t even realize we have those perceptions and viewpoints.
Views about independence, expectations of the other party when things happen, expectations of the commitment to the relationship itself, expectations of the trust & commitment, views about simplest day-to-day living essentials…
Hmmm....
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