Mid Autumn festival is here again.. And as with any traditional Chinese festivities, it comes with a load of ‘to-do’s and ‘not-to-do’s.. And it’s all fraught with trigger-traps, a misstep, and it may all just blow up in your face… After these years & seeing many frens’ and (eh hmm.. fren’s sister’s etc…) experience, here is my list of the difficulties to expect:
The first hurdle – to buy or not to buy… We’ll usually be worrying whether we are at that stage that it is acceptable to do these stuff for your other half’s family. Would he or she feel that we are trying to make a statement by doing all these? We would fear that might pressurize he or she into thinking that we are pushing for a deeper commitment. The best thing to do? Talk about it. Just ask, and you may be pleasantly surprised by the answer… =)
The second hurdle – buying the mooncakes. Guessing what your other half’s parents may like and fearing they may not like what you bought.. No help there when your other half tells you they don’t know.. =P When in doubt, choose a well-known brand, and safe traditional flavors.
The third hurdle – getting your other half to do the same… And their idea of acceptable could be (and IS usually) wildly different from what your parents expect. Common situations include
1. the other party does not see the need to buy mooncakes for your family,
2. giving (and I don’t mean buying) really obviously cheap mooncakes, or
3. being stingy and splitting a box of mooncakes between his & her family, but giving that 2 pieces of mooncakes in a 4pcs box… (oh, don’t laugh, really got people like that ok!)
The average girl would be using the ‘nag’ tactic or ‘tantrum’ tactic to get the guy to do what is necessary, and I would guess that would cause some strain in the relationship. I dunno, worst case scenario – I would suggest buying a box yourself for your family.. A little white lie in the best interests of peace… =P
The fourth hurdle – ‘delivering’ the mooncakes… Welcome to a potential “Meet the Fockers” situation… Just kidding, nothing that bad really.. =D haha.. We’ll usually be worrying that the conversation will be stilted, dwindling into nothing, and for some – turning into a interrogation session. Overactive imaginations will usually supply scenarios that The Parents will take an immediate dislike to you etc… From my personal experience, it really helps when you have inside help – i.e. siblings who’ll tell you what your parents are thinking, what’s a good conversation topic etc…
Oh, and remember, help goes both ways, all right! Hee.. All right, enough of my ramblings on this topic.. Gonna go sleep le.. Zzzz…..
**and oh, a disclaimer, pls do not automatically apply all of the above to Mark.. Not about him, okie, Mark has no problem with all these.. ^^…
The first hurdle – to buy or not to buy… We’ll usually be worrying whether we are at that stage that it is acceptable to do these stuff for your other half’s family. Would he or she feel that we are trying to make a statement by doing all these? We would fear that might pressurize he or she into thinking that we are pushing for a deeper commitment. The best thing to do? Talk about it. Just ask, and you may be pleasantly surprised by the answer… =)
The second hurdle – buying the mooncakes. Guessing what your other half’s parents may like and fearing they may not like what you bought.. No help there when your other half tells you they don’t know.. =P When in doubt, choose a well-known brand, and safe traditional flavors.
The third hurdle – getting your other half to do the same… And their idea of acceptable could be (and IS usually) wildly different from what your parents expect. Common situations include
1. the other party does not see the need to buy mooncakes for your family,
2. giving (and I don’t mean buying) really obviously cheap mooncakes, or
3. being stingy and splitting a box of mooncakes between his & her family, but giving that 2 pieces of mooncakes in a 4pcs box… (oh, don’t laugh, really got people like that ok!)
The average girl would be using the ‘nag’ tactic or ‘tantrum’ tactic to get the guy to do what is necessary, and I would guess that would cause some strain in the relationship. I dunno, worst case scenario – I would suggest buying a box yourself for your family.. A little white lie in the best interests of peace… =P
The fourth hurdle – ‘delivering’ the mooncakes… Welcome to a potential “Meet the Fockers” situation… Just kidding, nothing that bad really.. =D haha.. We’ll usually be worrying that the conversation will be stilted, dwindling into nothing, and for some – turning into a interrogation session. Overactive imaginations will usually supply scenarios that The Parents will take an immediate dislike to you etc… From my personal experience, it really helps when you have inside help – i.e. siblings who’ll tell you what your parents are thinking, what’s a good conversation topic etc…
Oh, and remember, help goes both ways, all right! Hee.. All right, enough of my ramblings on this topic.. Gonna go sleep le.. Zzzz…..
**and oh, a disclaimer, pls do not automatically apply all of the above to Mark.. Not about him, okie, Mark has no problem with all these.. ^^…
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